The Anatomy of Love

Broj 2 - Godina 7 - 06/2017

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In All About Love: New Visions, bell hooks observes that we are constantly exposed to messages telling us that the workings of love are mysterious and its agency unfathomable; that love is, in other words, only invaluable if it remains unexplained and unknowable. hooks argues that knowledge is a crucial element of love and that understanding its forces does not detract from its importance and value; on the contrary, it enriches the experience of love. More recently, Alain Badiou has in In Praise of Love similarly claimed that love is a ‘truth procedure,’ the kind of experience through which the truth about Two is constructed...

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Love has traditionally been understood either as an objective, transcendentforce, or a subjective ability. Through a number of steps,the article argues that both these options have lost their credibility due to changes in the media through which love is performed. First, the article demonstrates how the attempts,in the life sciences, to explain love biologically or physically reproduce a traditional romantic ideology. Then, the implications of the inflation of explicit love declarations, and the consequences of internet dating, are discussed. What these examples amount to is the fact that the medium is brought to the fore. A consequence of this is that the romantic ideology is strengthened, while the premises of romantic love – the autonomous subject and the transcendent objectivity – are weakened or even dissolved.Keywords:idealism, materialism, narcissism, subjectivity, reification,internet dating, controlJennifer Lopez, Haddaway, Howard Jones – yes, virtually every singer, author,or philosopher since Sappho and Platohave raised the same question: What is love? This endless recurrence may be taken as a sign both of the aptness and inaptness of the question. The huge amount of answers makes it impossible to say anything that hasn’t already been said. Every love song is a cliché from the outset. On the other hand, the fact that the question keeps coming up over and over again, points to the endurance of the experience of or longing for love, and hence to the inevitability of the issue....

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To je jedan od razloga zašto ne voli kupovati u ovo doba godine – previše ljudi. Ruke su joj pune i kad se sjeti kako je bilo teško odabrati, pomisli: tiranija izbora. Ne točno tim riječima, naravno, jer ovih joj je dana teško pronaći potrebne riječi. Sve dolazi iz nutrine. Osjeća što misli iako to ne može artikulirati. Da je barem hobotnica! Dobro bi mi došao još koji par ruku, pomisli, boreći se da jednom zadrži golem trkaći auto dok drugom podiže plastičnu vrećicu s transformerom koja joj je nekako iskliznula iz ruku. Nespretna. To bi Gunter promrmljao. Nespretna si, Oge. Nespretna. Cokćući jezikom i odmahujući glavom poput oca koji kori dijete. Mrzi kad tako razgovara s njom. Kao da mu je dijete, a ne žena. Kad to radi, nju počne žariti u grlu pa kaže neke stvari pa on kaže neke stvari pa oboje utihnu. No žarenje u grlu još dugo ne posustaje. Boli kao da joj netko trlja sol u ranu. Čir na grlu. Zadivljena je čudom riječi koja je iskrsnula. Niotkud. No takva je narav čuda, zar ne? Dođu niotkud, stvore se pred tobom jer vjeruješ. A ona vjeruje. Zaista, kažem vam, ako imate vjere koliko je zrno gorušičino te reknete ovoj gori: ‘Premjesti se odavde onamo!', premjestit će se. Ustat će i potrčati! Koliko je puta to pastor rekao? Stalno joj je iznova držao propovijed. Vjera je slobodna, rekao je. Samo je moraš prihvatiti! I jest. Prihvatila je. O, itekako jest. ...

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This article aims to give a psychological interpretation to Alain de Botton’s novels On Love and The Course of Love, doubling the philosophical take on love that runs in the background of the novels. Robert Sternberg’s triangular theory of love will be applied to de Botton’s two novels, in an attempt to reach an understanding of love by means of psychological deconstruction, following the dynamic of the three components of the love triangle: passion, intimacy and decision \ commitment. References will also be made to Sternberg’s complementary theories on love, i.e. the theory that conceptualizes love as a story and the theory of love as a socio-cultural artefact.Key words: love, psychology, triangular theory, love story, cultureAlain de Botton’s book On Love, presented to the readers as a novel telling the love story of Chloe and the narrator, is a full-circle account that unfolds between two plane flights: on the first flight, from Paris to London, the two future lovers are seated one next to the other, and they meet and fall in love; the reverse flight, from Paris to London, takes the couple back home from a trip and ends with their break-up. The exact punctuation of the beginning and end of the romantic relationship is symptomatic of the whole structure of the book. The clearly delineated chapters and paragraphs correspond to as many moments in the couple’s relationship, thus allowing us to recreate with accuracy the milestones of their love story. The mere story-telling is doubled by the narrator’s voice that disassembles every event up to its inner detailed parts and deliversthe thoughts and rationale behind his actions. The reader is not left to guess, but discovers actively, together with the narrator, a keenly performed radiography of love. ...

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Pokojnici stavljaju šećer samo onda kad im gurnemo žličicu u ruku i sami opisujemo kružnicu po dnu šalice. Kristalići šećera imitiraju tornada, zračni vrtlozi postavljaju listiće čaja na vrtuljak. Vrte se i nakon što su se žličice, odložene na tanjuriće, ohladile. Neka bude pokret. Neka mrav bježi preko stolnjaka vukući mrvicu kolača. Treba nam osa iznad stola. Neka nešto zuji. Neka ukine tišinu te scene, prije nego što pokojnici progovore jezikom koji smo za njih sastavili od tankih papirića sačuvanih riječi. Prije nego što se skrijemo iza njihovih leđa i počnemo govoriti umjesto njih, zamišljajući da miču usnama. Poslije ćemo nad tanjure prinijeti njihove prste koji će razlomiti kekse, pokupit ćemo mrvice njihovim jagodicama, koje ćemo mi polizati. Na kraju, umorni od težine marioneta, spustit ćemo njihove ruke na koljena, prihvaćajući da tu završava i popodnevni čaj i uspomena. Pokojnici se ne odijevaju sami. Mi to činimo za njih. Isto je i sa češljanjem, brijanjem, stavljanjem ukosnica i zakopčavanjem manžeta. I s paljenjem peći i micanjem čajnika koji pišti. ...

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